Inside “The End”, Part 9

(You can read Part 8 here)

Honestly, I’m not sure how to end this series on the ending of Midday Connection (a women’s program on Moody Radio). And, I feel a little selfish (indulgent?) about posting this with all of the pain and sadness in the world. I’ll write more about that soon.

More and more people are commenting that it’s time for me to move on from the pain of my job loss. Really? It’s been 2 months since my job ended. Two months. Am I to have all my grief processed, confusion settled, fear assuaged, doubt resolved in that amount of time? I suspect that people mean well by encouraging me to “move on” and I know that people process grief and change differently.

So, I’m moving to a more quiet grief and processing. This will take time and the days when I feel lost in my own life is NORMAL. If you are swimming in the depth of grief and others don’t understand, know that you’re not alone. You’re not crazy. You are human. Our fast-paced and results-focused culture usually only allows time for a quick, light skimming on the surface of grief. It’s hard on the people around us to stay with us in our pain. Confession: I get it. I’ve been impatient in the past when friends have gone through deep grief – weary of hearing about the sadness. So, it takes work and wisdom for us to stay engaged in the healing process with God – without becoming consumed by it, losing perspective, or denying it.

Here’s the deal. I’m becoming more grateful that I didn’t slide right into another job right away. If I had, I suspect that I wouldn’t be digging in to this deeper work that God is doing in my life. I feel that I’ve been given a gift. A gift I don’t really want, but alas. That’s part of the trust work God is doing in my life.

…Read part 10 here…

5 thoughts on “Inside “The End”, Part 9

  1. Hi Lori. As you well know from what your MIL has been through, yes, others just do not “get” grief and the time that it takes each individual to process and move through it. That process is different for each person and takes a different amount of time. In fact, there is no time frame even though others are in a rush for us to “move on” because they do not know how to deal with us.

    Take all the time you need. It will be worth it all. Thank you for being raw, vulnerable, and laying yourself wide open for others to see what grief is like.

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  2. Renee

    I so agree with Candy! In fact, I don’t like the “move on” phrase that so many attach to the grief process. I’m still grieving the loss of Midday Connection so I can only imagine the incredible adjustment this is for you, Lori. You’re an amazing woman of God who has blessed, challenged, inspired, encouraged and strengthened so many of us. God’s going to continue His work in you and through you. So grateful you’ve open your life to us. You are loved!!

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  3. Your comments are soooo important and helpful. They are sooooo accurate. Everyone has a right, given by our gracious and loving God, to handle their grief their own way. Do not be rushed or believe you have to move on within a specific time limit. Please know that your listeners are grieving as well, and please continue your journey. It’s beneficial for all. (I still do not listen to Moody radio at noon–do not necessarily like your replacement!!!) God bless all of you, and thank you,

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